Best in Show...

We are home on a Friday night. We argued and then spent a LONG time in bed making up so we missed our movie time.

We went to lunch with some of his friends and his one friend who normally never addresses me made some rude comments. 

He started off nice, asked me how my classes were going... but when I told him they'd just started and I'd been out of school since the spring semester, he said, "What have you been doing since May? What have you been doing?" 

"Keeping up with the house, going to the gym... um," that was all I could think of. 

"Wow, that must be nice! I wish I could do that." 

Then A. jumped in saying "Emi runs my life. He takes care of me and he's very good with the home budget. I save so much having him. He does everything for me." That was the only time he jumped in. Then he kind of ignored it and talked to his other friends. 

This rude friend kept coming back to me even though I was trying to ignore him and not make eye contact and play on my phone. He kept asking me what it's like to not do anything. He was trying to be funny about it and I don't even think he realized how rude it was. 

At one point he told me that in his country, there was a word in Arabic for boys like me that translates to like a poodle or show dog. He said it's boys who lay around all day looking pretty and waiting to be pet, fed, or played with. 

I looked at A. who was turned away from us and talking in Farsi to his other friend. I looked back at the rude guy, then I got up and left. I went to the bathroom and texted A. to let me know when he was walking out to the valet and I'd meet him there. 

He didn't know I was in the bathroom so he called me to ask where I was and what was wrong. I told him I didn't want to ruin his lunch, but I was done and I'd meet up with him when he finished. He paid for our ticket and got my food to go then I met him at the valet. I wasn't even hungry anymore so I didn't take the food from him. 

I told him what happened on the way home, and he kept trying to explain it away like the friend says shocking things to be funny and that he was teasing me because he had an obvious crush on me. 

That was so not the case. I hate when guys think that someone being rude and obnoxious is a way to flirt. No. No one enjoys being called a show dog or whatever the Arabic word meant. 

A. said Omani guys are like that and he will make sure I'm not alone with him like that ever again. 

He said the guy expected me to tease him back. I reminded A. that he frowns whenever I get into conversations with his friends outside of when he is participating. I told him that he wants me to be his quiet sidekick boy, but if he wants that then he should defend me when his friends are being rude. 

We went back and forth until we got home. We never yell at each other, that's not how we are. It's more like a polite back and forth with the goal of making each other happy. 

He said most of his friends respect me as his boy and perhaps that friend doesn't respect him that he would even engage me like that whether flirtatious or rude. I think he understood that it wasn't just someone being playful and it hurt my feelings. I'm pretty insecure about not working or contributing financially to things and when someone works hard to press on that nerve, it makes me feel pretty bad. 

I didn't cry though. A. agreed that he should have paid more attention. He said he wouldn't have wanted me to be rude back to the guy. He called the guy and yelled at him in Farsi or Arabic. He speaks both. He told me the guy will not bother me again.