Long Post about the husband. :)

As overprotective as my husband can be, there are certain little areas of insecurity he has where I step up to take care of him. Dating a hyper-masculine guy has been a lot of learning. He's confident and outgoing, but when it's just the two of us he opens up in ways I didn't know he could. One of them is his body image. Middle Eastern guys can be super into their appearance, even straight ones. When we first got together we were both taking classes so it was easy for him to go the gym for two hours and work really hard on his body. 

With work and family pressures, he doesn't have that time anymore and he feels a little self conscious about it. He used to have those hard-etched abs and big pecs. He also used to have more hair on his head and less on other parts where he doesn't want hair. He still makes it to the gym a few days a week and I make healthy food for us, but with his mom here she stuffs him with home food he loves. 

All that to say! This morning he came down in a pair of shorts with no shirt on while I was making his breakfast (blueberry pancakes) and his mom said something to him in Farsi. I don't speak their language, but I could see he was hurt. He said something and then she said something back and laughed. He didn't laugh. He turned and went back to our bedroom without getting his breakfast. 

His mom kind of shrugged at me. I took his breakfast to our room and he was working on his laptop looking sad. I put his plate on the side table and snuggled up to him. I didn't say anything. He doesn't like being poked for information. He just held me and sent an email to some client. Then he finally opened up. 

He said he has to make more time for the gym. Apparently his mom said he's let himself go like his brothers have and that he should share more of his food with me instead of starving me and eating it all himself (She thinks I'm too skinny and accuses him of keeping me that way). 

Can you imagine a parent saying that? I was horrified. My dad would NEVER make a hurtful joke about me. Even when I do it to myself he gives me a disapproving look and says something he likes about me. I know A has said before she picks at all of the kids like that and it's just something Persian mothers do. It upset him, but he couldn't tell her that or she would say he's too sensitive. I was pissed. I can be super protective of him when I need. 

I reminded him of how hot he is to me and how turned on I get just seeing him in his boxerbriefs. I said some other, filthier stuff and then I went down on him while he ate the pancakes, but the point is I got to make him feel better. 

No! Actually the point is sometimes I forget that inside that big pile of steel I married is a guy who needs just as much support, love, and care as I do. 🙌

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On a weird side note! We were flipping through channels last night with his parents and I screamed when I saw my husband on tv! Well not him, but this actor on this show looks JUST like him. It's a show called Quantico and we had to all google like crazy to figure out who the actor is (Jaylen Moore). I can't find out much about him. A was not amused. he said he looks nothing like the guy and that I think anyone with brown skin and muscles looks like him... That is sometimes true...  but even his parents said yeah he does kinda look like him a little! 😃 So now I have to watch the show!