I haven't blogged since January! I don't know if anyone still reads this. We have had a pretty crazy year.
We moved to Texas this summer to be closer to my husband's family. It was the pandemic and then a death in his family (back in Iran). I couldn't really say no since he'd been away from his family for 8 years since he left Iran. His parents moved to Texas for a job last year and we'd talked about it.
Things are good here, but I really miss California, and he is starting to remember why he moved halfway across the world from his family. We're not sure what to do, but we know we want to go back.
I do want your advice though.
I have a friend I grew up with and we were pretty much inseparable through high school. Things got kind of strained when I met my husband and even worse when I got married. He's kind of the gay best friend I wrote about in some of my series.
He's always been that type that makes mean jokes and then acts like it's my problem if I get upset.
When I got married and changed to online school, he made jokes about me being a houseboy or housewife or other terms. We grew up in the same neighborhood except that he had two parents and they had a house instead of an apartment. He never made me feel weird about being poor or not having the stuff he had.
Now he is working and paying his way through college without much help from his parents and he kind of makes comments that show he is not happy that I'm not in the same situation. A lot of those "must be nice" comments. I feel bad for him.
His social media makes it look like he is living the super posh life. A lot of it is fake, but I don't call him out on it, because he's my friend.
Back when we lived in LA, he would post pics of our house or restaurants we'd take him to or my husband's car. My husband is annoyed with him, but he puts up with him because he's my friend.
The rude jokes though! They are getting worse, especially during the pandemic when he has to keep working to pay his bills, and I complain about my husband not letting me leave the house.
Last time, he said, "You don't have real problems. Keep his house clean and be happy."
I know I can't have a serious conversation with him or even say he is being rude. It makes me sad.
I don't know what to say to him about it, and I don't want to just drop him.
I have bad memory with things. It's why I am a writer. I love how much he knows about me and all the funny things he remembers from growing up. Sometimes he will bring up some inside joke I have completely forgotten and he remembers every detail of how it happened and why it's funny.
My husband thinks he is jealous and that things have become toxic. I have a hard time letting people go, even when it is way past time.
Any thoughts? I really am not sure what to do.
